what it is like being donor conceived

 My name is Emma and I’m donor conceived. I was born in Denmark in 1996 and I have a mom and a dad. I also have two younger twin sisters.
I have always been very open about my conception story and shared it with the people I care for. My story is positive and full of hope – Today I share my story, to support people in similar situations.

"That the book, was read aloud over and over again, has meant that it was a gradual process of understanding what being donor conceived meant. The older I got, the more nuances were understood, and more questions asked."

When was I told?

My parents have never kept it a secret that I am donor conceived. As a child, I used to read a book that was a nighttime story and a children’s book that told the story of how I came to be. My parents read the book to me as far back as I can remember and it was one of my favorites. 
In the book, my parents described how a man had helped my parents by donating sperm. 

As the book, was read aloud over and over again, it was a gradual process of understanding what being donor conceived meant. The older I got, the more I understood, and the more advanced my questions became. 

But the important thing is that, there has never been a time were my parents had to break the news to me. It has been a natural part of our family and me as an individual for as long as I can remember. 

I have am incredibly happy about the choices my parents made, which means that my perception of being a donor child is very positive.

What about the donor?

Due to legislation in Denmark in 1996 I have and anonymous sperm donor which means that I know absolutely nothing about him. I have never wanted to either. 

When younger I thought about whether I might look like him or not.  But aside from that, I have never needed to know more about him. 

I have not done DNA tests or tried finding donor related half-siblings. Simply because I have not felt a need to do so. 

Were are very aware that these feeling possibly can change throughout life, especially during big life changes such as having children. But we talk openly about it and I have my family’s full support if I some day want to go and find out more. This is all the reassurance I need for now.

It is  important to me that he knows that I am grateful. That he is in no doubt about my eternal gratitude that he signed up to become a donor and I hope he knows how much it has meant to me and my family. I think of him with happiness, and in that sense he has a place in my life.

The Support

There is an incredible number of difficult decisions associated with the wish for a child. Especially when a donor is needed. Because of this, I started this blog; Donorchild by Emma Grønbæk

I write about my experiences as a donor conceived , thoughts and comments, all with the purpose of sharing my knowledge and experience. It is my hope that this can contribute more knowledge on donor conception in general and support to people batteling fertility issues or who for other reasons are in need of a donor.