• ART babies


    Due to my studies as well as Covid-19, the blog has been way too quiet lately. I am sorry about that!
    However, there has been time for this small project that I now have the opportunity to share with you.


    I recently participated in an online interview about ART.
    Assisted reproductive technology (ART) is very common in overcoming infertility today. In fact, ART procedures have doubled in the US during the past 10 years. Urologist Kevin McEleny has spoken to four young women about their experience growing up as ART babies.

    I Emma Grønbæk from Denmark was born after sperm donation, the twins Evie and Eleanor Lake from the UK were born after surgical sperm retrieval and ICSI treatment, and Rebecca Tippin from the UK was born after her parents went through IVF treatment.

    Read To Have a Family – Click Here

  • To have a family

    From time to time I have been asked about my thoughts on having a family my own. Asked if I’ve thought about it, in the context of being donor conceived. And of course, this is something I’ve been thinking about from time to time. In this post I will share some of my thoughts.

    Biology

    My mother is a clinical geneticist. This means that she knows a great deal about heretage and diseases. I have often talked to her about her work and I know that it is not always an advantage to know too much about your genetics. It can cause both grief and worry, which in some cases were unnecessary.
    As a donor child, I only know about 50% of my biology. However, the remaining 50% have been tested for more diseases than most of the rest of population. I think it statistically gives me slightly better odds.
    You can get tests to map your genome and thereby get more information. I don’t want to know more about my genetics at the moment, especially not before I potentilly have children. I am convinced that it would cause an incredible amount of scruples and concerns. As things are now, I don’t really worry much about my biology, and that’s how I could like to keep it.

    Emotions

    However, I also think about whether children could potentially change my thoughts and feelings about my donor. That this big event of life and change could give me other needs.
    Could I thus have a longing to know more?
    Would I want to see if the kids could have special features both of mind and appearance that were similar to donors?
    At this time, I cannot argue why this should happen. After all, I’ve always known that he was there and that I might share similarities with him. But I only think of it as something exciting and a little bit special in the good way. This is exactly what makes me to be me – and im thankful for that.
    Of course, I would hope that I can continue to be satisfied and have this view of on my anonymous donor. Nor can I at the time see why it should change if I had children myself. However, the thought has struck me!
    In that case, my whole approach to being donor conceived might change.

    … A donor child’s thoughts on starting a family …


    See also the Child’s book where it is possible to make a book yourself as the reminder parents made for your own child – Click here

  • Focus on Donor Conception

    It has been some time since I have posted now. This is due to my time being spend on a lot of different projects. Projects which I am very excited to reveal, and hopefully soon! 

    Why is it important? 

    I have asked myself on this matter a few times. Why is it important for me to spread my knowledge and put focus on donor conceived children?

  • Lonely

    This is my first blog post, where I share negative emotions associated with being a donor child. The post is about how I have sometimes felt lonely.

    I was the world’s most wanted child. My parents struggled for 6 years to have me, and I was a little miracle. The last egg, which had been frozen several months and just had to be “cleaned up”, as my mother says. They had lost hope and were almost through approval for adoption. But then I came along. Therefore, I received special attention and affection from my parents when i was a baby.
    Then after 22 months the twins came into the world. Not only they were there two of them, but they are also my father’s biological children. This was due to the, at that time, new ICSI method.

    I was very jealous that i now had to share the attention!

    My parents have never treated us different. To both of them, we are all equally their children. We were very old before the idea that we were half siblings, struck us for the first time. Probably because it never felt like anything other than family.

  • Disagree or not

    Do you disagree or not? In this blogpost, I would like to bring attention to making room for different attitudes and perspectives with respect for each other. I think it’s important that you can express yourself and your opinions. That people then disagree and argue something else is, of course, totally acceptable.

    Since I started to share my story i have experienced a lot of really positive feedback. It means an awful lot when people write me and share their thoughts and concerns. Please continue!

    However, there are also many who disagree with some of the things I think and argue. It is again fully understandable and perfectly fine that they have another opinion.
    My problem is when people think it is wrong that I am happy to be a donor child of an anonymous sperm donor. Trying to convince me that it’s wrong to feel that way. And that there are many who do not feel like me and therefore i should not go out and tell that i am satisfied with my situation.

  • My Story – Video

    In the video you get a little insight on my experience of life as a donor child.

    I also give my advice to present or future parents of donor conceived children.

  • Cryos Symposium 2019

    A lot has happened in the last couple of weeks and therefore i haven’t had the time to write this outline before now!

    On 3. of May I attended The Cryos Symposium 2019.
    This was the first time I had to speak to a big crowd like that. That it was also in English and something very personal did not make it less nerve-wracking..
    But what an amazing experience! After the first minute or so the nerves disappeared and I could just tell my story.
    I was given the opportunity to talk to a lot of incredible people. People who have worked in the fertility industry for many years, but who rarely see the outcome of their work as adults.
    It led to a lot of exciting talk and acquaintances.

    Picture from my outline for the Cryos Symposium 2019

    A few days before the symposium, I was contacted by a danish journalist who wanted to know what I was going to talk about at the symposium.
    On Friday, BT published the article about me being a donor child.
    The entire article can be read – HERE
    Unfortunately it is in danish, sorry.

    I also wrote a post for the Cryos blog – Read it Here!

  • The Family Concept

    In light of the tragic events the recent days, I remind myself to be thankful for me and my family.

    Family is something that has always been there. You can easily forget to appreciate it until you lose it or can’t start one yourself.

    Is blood in fact thicker than water?

    I am interested in the concept of family. What is a family and who is part of it? What does it take to call it a family and does biology define a family?

    Today there are traditional nuclear families, solo mothers, 2 moms or dads, rainbow families, families where children are adopted, families with foster children and many more..
    The list is long, but how is a family defined today?

    A quick Google search provided the following

    A family is a group of individuals who are mainly united through kinship – both biologically and through marriage.

    For example, from a social anthropological point of view, the family has both biological and social functions:
    -reproduction, the production of survivors and the continuation of the genus.
    -Socialization, the family gives the children the basic Education and lecturing them on the norms of society.

    In many ways, I think it is a very old-fashioned family view. Today i couldn’t say that the consisting of biology and kinship was what made family.
    In fact, the word family comes from Latin and means household, which includes all those living under the same roof. Perhaps we should go back to this definiton. To me it sounds more realistic.

    What makes a family in your opinion?

    To me, family is more emotions than biology. I may not share biology with everyone in my family, but in my heart they are 110% my family. Biology plays no part her and I love them very much. I do not tell them often enough, but today I will remember to do so!

    Do you remember telling your family that you love them? It is so important both to yourself and them. You never know what tomorrow brings and it can never be said too much.

    Love From me – Emma


    Also read the paper The Blank Spots where I write about genetics and to look like his family-click here